LGBTQ2S+ Therapy

You shouldn't have to spend therapy wondering whether it's safe to be yourself.

Whether you identify as queer, lesbian, gay, bi+, pansexual, trans, non-binary, gender diverse, Two-Spirit, questioning, or somewhere else within the LGBTQ2S+ community, I hope therapy can become one place where you don't have to explain or defend who you are.

Instead, we can spend our time understanding you.

You might recognize yourself here...

Perhaps you've spent years adapting to other people's expectations.

You may have learned to read the room before speaking.

To decide how much of yourself to share.

To wonder whether it is safe to disagree, to be seen, or to ask for what you need.

Those patterns often make sense. They may have helped you navigate relationships, families, workplaces, or communities where acceptance felt uncertain.

But over time, they can also make it harder to hear your own voice.

You might find yourself wondering:

• Who am I, now that I'm trying to live more honestly?

• What kind of relationships actually fit me?

• Why do I keep doubting myself?

• Why do some people leave me feeling so anxious or ashamed?

• Why is it still so difficult to set boundaries?

• What do I really want for my life?

Or perhaps you're simply tired.

Tired of monitoring other people's reactions.

Tired of second-guessing yourself.

Tired of carrying more than you realize.

What brings people to therapy

Sometimes people come wanting to explore sexuality or gender.

Sometimes they're navigating coming out, family relationships, dating, break-ups, or questions about identity.

And sometimes those subjects hardly come up at all.

Instead, they're struggling with anxiety, low mood, burnout, relationship conflict, grief, perfectionism, or the lasting effects of growing up in a family where emotional needs weren't well understood.

Being LGBTQ2S+ may not be the problem.

But it can shape the context in which those struggles developed.

My approach

I identify as queer/bi/pan and gender fluid.

That doesn't mean our experiences will be the same. Every person's story is unique.

What it does mean is that this is familiar territory for me.

You won't need to decide whether it's safe to mention your partner. You won't need to educate me about basic aspects of queer or trans life before we can begin. We don't have to spend our time figuring out whether your identity will be understood.

We can begin where you actually want to begin.

Like all of my work, therapy isn't about fixing people.

It's about developing a more accurate understanding of yourself.

Together, we'll become curious about how your ways of thinking, feeling, relating, and protecting yourself developed. Most of them made sense for good reasons. As we understand those patterns more clearly, people often find they have more choice, greater flexibility, and less distress.

A place to arrive as yourself

Many LGBTQ2S+ people tell me there is a particular kind of relief in not having to explain basic parts of themselves.

Therapy can simply become a place where all of you is welcome.

Not because every session is about being LGBTQ2S+, but because no part of who you are needs to be left outside the room.

I welcome adults from across the LGBTQ2S+ community, including people who identify as queer, lesbian, gay, bi+, pansexual, trans, non-binary, gender diverse, Two-Spirit, questioning, and people in polyamorous and kink communities.

If you've been reading this page and finding yourself thinking, "This feels familiar," we may be a good fit to work together.

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If you are on the Bisexual spectrum, read more on therapy specifically with you in mind.