Who I work best with

Finding the right therapist matters.

There isn't one therapist who is right for everyone. Every therapist brings a different personality, perspective, and way of working. The strongest predictors of successful therapy, according to overwhelming research, is finding someone who feels like a good fit for you. A relationship that feels trustworthy and as safe as possible when you are talking about uncomfortable material.

Over the years, I've come to understand the kind of work I find most meaningful and the clients I seem to help most effectively: I tend to do my best work with adults who are curious about themselves and believe that change is possible.

You might be a good fit for my practice if you find yourself thinking things like...

• I want my reactions to make sense instead of feeling like something is wrong with me.

• I want to understand how my past shaped me without letting it define my future.

• I want to understand why I do what I do — not just learn another coping strategy.

• I've spent years functioning well on the outside, but I don't understand why I keep repeating the same patterns.

• I know my childhood still influences how I relate to myself and other people.

• I often put other people's needs ahead of my own.

• I struggle to set boundaries without feeling guilty.

• I want to stop repeating the same relationship patterns.

• I know there's more going on beneath the surface — I want to know myself better.

• I don't just want to feel better — I want to understand myself. (But I also want to feel better.)

• I want therapy that helps me understand myself, not just manage symptoms or label me.

• I'm looking for meaningful, lasting change, not just short-term coping strategies.

Many of my clients are thoughtful, reflective people who enjoy learning and are interested in understanding how emotions, relationships, and the human mind work. They appreciate an evidence-based approach and are willing to actively participate in the therapy process.

Together we often explore topics such as:

• early programming — what we learned in early life about ourselves, emotions, relationships, safety, and connection

• emotional maturity and regulation

• the impact of emotionally immature families

• enriching relationships and improving communication

• boundaries

• self-compassion

• identity — knowing yourself more accurately

• emotions and the nervous system

• meaning and purpose

• understanding long-standing patterns

I see therapy as more than symptom reduction.

I believe that understanding yourself creates more freedom, more choice, and more opportunity to live intentionally.

One of my goals is to help clients develop what I think of as psychological literacy—the ability to understand your emotions, relationships, nervous system, and patterns with greater clarity and compassion.

When we understand ourselves more accurately, we often become kinder to ourselves, more intentional in our choices, and better equipped to create lasting change.

My role isn't to tell you who you should become.

It's to help you better understand who you already are, what has shaped you, and how you can move toward the life and relationships you want.

I don’t believe therapy is about becoming someone different.

I believe it is about understanding yourself more accurately, relating to yourself with greater compassion, and making choices that reflect who you truly are.

I help you understand why you became this way, so you can stop blaming yourself and begin changing what no longer serves you.

If that way of thinking resonates with you, we may be a good fit.